Category Archives: Motivation

Deserving & Success


“Everyone deserves, as we’ve so often said. If deserving were the cause of success, then everyone would be successful. Deserving doesn’t cause… willingness does.” Lazaris.  It is so true. Does the president of the United States deserve to be president more than the average business owner? No. Everyone deserves what they want, but most are not willing to have it, because we humans have believes, and they dictate our thoughts: I can’t be president,I will fail, I don’t have enough influential friends, I am not smart enough etc. Will and Choice can override those limiting thoughts. If you believe that people on top are the superstars that you bought in that they are, you are wrong, and in that believe you put yourself down. Being a leader is a function like a captain on a boat. If one of the guys that rows the boat fails, or if the leader does not lead the crew to get to where they are going the voyage fails. Leaders have the same weaknesses and problems like you. They have 24 hours time, they are prone to the same diseases and they fail like you. There is no logic that justifies why successful people are where they are, but they wholeheartedly believe they deserve their position, can see themselves in that position, choose, make a plan, and are willing to go for it, no matter how their reality treats them.

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What Does A Coach Does & When To Use One?

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The goal of a life coach is to first find what is working within you and for you, then build on that Real Foundation.  A Coach does not teach you his/her own paths to success. A Life Coach helps defining the You in you to establish Your Clarity and Focus of what You really want.  A Coach supports you staying in that clarity and focus until reaching your destination.   A Life/Wellness Coach is like a friend that is neutral and his/her only agenda is your ease and well-being on your way to your goals.  The proof that you have found YOUR way is that you experience “Inspired Action”. This means, you don’t have to force yourself into your success. Instead, you are getting naturally drawn into your wants by taking action that is fueled by the feeling that you can get there. You are inspired. A life coach’s strength is to support clients finding themselves and build on that foundation organically.
Reasons To Use A Life Coach: Having a sounding board for your dreams and solutions. Helping define your dreams and guides you to move forward. Helping recognize what to do to move forward with greater momentum and clarity of vision.  Finally, having a partner helps you doing more than you would on your own.
I know I have the right Life Coach:  “I feel at ease. Now, my attitude changed to reflect my goals. I feel better every day.  I see results in my daily life. I feel clarity about my life situations.  I see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am Empowered.” Send me and email for a free session.

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How To Find What You Really Want:


HOW TO FIND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT: Oddly, we humans know to the smallest detail what we don’t want, but when ask what we do want we stutter. The best way to find “what you truly want,” is discovered in “what you don’t want.” Try this, either for a section of your life like relationship, job, business, or for your life as a whole: 1. write down everything you don’t want or fear, till you have nothing left. 2. Make a new list by turning the first list all into positives. Examples, I don’t like to drive to work during rush hour. – It would be nice, if I had a job where I have flexible hours to avoid rush hours. I don’t like to be disrespected. – It would be nice, if everyone had mutual respect I come in contact with. 3. Add any other things you knew you wanted before you started this process. d. Throw away the list with the I don’t wants and condense and tweak the list to make it sound right for you. 4. Let go of focussing onto “what you don’t want.” Instead, start focusing on “what you want” by reading your want every morning and evening to keep you on track. Adjust the list if it feels outdated or you discover new wants. You will be amazed what this little change of focus will do in your life. Here is a 3 minute video that shows how life altering it is knowing what you really want.

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We Do Everything For Happiness

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Happiness is the bottom-line of all you do and all your desires. What you choose to do comes from you believing it will make you feel happier. I.e. You want this sports car to show your wild side, to feel young again, to be happier. Whatever it is you choose to do, loving or hurting someone, you believe, ultimately, it will make you happier. THE RUB: Society taught you feeling uncomfortable or ambiguous  bad is a “bad thing. ”By adding this judgment when feeling bad you feel worse. It is human to want to feel happy. Condemning feeling uncomfortable or bad is inhuman. It is essential to understand, feeling ambiguous or uncomfortable lets you know that you are not on YOUR right track. SOLUTION: Go and look for another way or thought that feels better. You got to go down on a trampoline in order to get height. Next time when feeling bad, think “trampoline” and look forward to getting happier and feeling better.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ)


Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is knowing about the human condition, the properties of emotions and the sensing and translating of feelings and how they function and relate to what works and does not in your life. Don’t sweat it, you are doing it all day every day. Why? Because all human motivations are based on the believe that they will lead us  or make us happy. I.e. I buy this car-A instead of that car-B, because I feel it is car-A is better and that will make me happier than the other car-B.  Intelligence that is based on facts and cause and effect is less and less important due to the overwhelming information delivery from the internet. To gauge if the information works for you, you need your emotions of what feels right or better.

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