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In Crises DO NOT Rely on Your Emotions. Follow Rules of Coronavirus Prevention First

Why are people taking this pandemic not for what it is, dangerous. Some things are not negotiable. How you confront this virus is similar to allowing your child to touch a glowing piece of iron. You don’t! We know the media keeps blowing every frivolous thing out of proportion to get your attention. When there is something that is as unpredictable as this coronavirus, the media has no tricks left to convey the seriousness of this deadly threat.

It concerns me when I see a team of cleaning women of five driving without masks in a small car from house to house, kitchen staff and construction workers chatting it up without adhering to safety measures. The worst ignorance is that the general public crowds Beaches like any other beautiful weekend. Our town has one of the oldest populations in California and yet during weekdays I see more people over 65 out going about their business without caution. This careless behavior creates stress and worry for those who adhere to current health standards.  If we keep ignoring precautions, we ask for the National Guards to keep discipline to contain this virus as we see already in Europe and the rest of the world.

Since we have no prior reference, we can’t rely on our feelings or logic alone. The coronavirus just is. For the foreseeable future we have to adapt to it by following the rules. Is it challenging? Yes, but what else is there to do and what else is currently more important than protect lives?

Do the few things that help and be disciplined a.HANDSWash them often, b.ELBOWCough into it, c.FACEDon’t touch it, d.FEETStay more than 6ft apart, e.FEELsick? Stay home.  If you feel certain things are okay to do, check before the CDC https://www.cdc.gov/ or WHO https://www.who.int/ websites. Bill Gates predicted we could contain this pandemic within four to six weeks if we are disciplined.  Stay safe and let’s ride this crazy thing out for yourself and everyone else. 

Michaell Magrutsche is a certified coach and caregiver and lives in Orange County CA

What the Hell is Fear All About?

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All fear ultimately comes from a fear of being alone, lonely and/or being separate. Understand and surrender to the fact that there will always be something to fear. Because we are continuously expanding by stepping out or being pushed out of your comfort zone, fear is part of our human growth process. Decide to see fear as a friend to warn you about danger. When you let it go by allowing and feeling your fear(s), and know fear just wants to move through, it will deliver to you your bliss, your loves and your treasures. I love this following quote, because it lets us look differently at fear. “All fear is a symptom of faulty belief. All fears come from loneliness – loneliness meaning: ” I don’t love good enough.” You are in charge of your reality, therefore in charge of how you live with people, in love or in loneliness. Understanding this mechanism, you begin to conquer fear”.- Lazaris. What a great quote to ponder and take a deeper inventory about your fear(s), especially about those fears that you are currently experiencing. One other solution is as soon as you start feeling fear lay down and close your eyes to allow yourself to feel your fear as much as you can handle. Thus usually gives you clarity about the fear and allows the fear to dissipate more quickly. Enjoy. If you like this information please share the wisdom.

Holidays Unstressed – You, Your Partner & Families

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In this episode Michaell Magrutsche, Dr Joen Painter and Hillary F. Brown discuss guilt-trips around family obligations during the Holiday-season.  When a spouse’s family does not approve. The one person that seemingly always ruins the party. The judgement of each other. The yearly review and crazy play of new years resolutions.   We give our opinions, tell our own situations and how to handle them most elegantly. Listen to this 12min Podcast  click here

Fear of Loneliness – Human’s Bugaboo

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There are opinions that either fear or loneliness are the bottom line of all constricting emotions. In my experience, it is the synergy of both. It is the fear of loneliness that is the big unseen bugaboo. Please, stay with me and forgive my wordiness. I guarantee, it will be worth your time. We all know fear or loneliness and we somehow can get through them. The synergy called fear of loneliness is something else and much deeper. Perhaps that’s why we have a hard time seeing it. Fear of loneliness gets to our core, Humanity and God, Universe or whatever higher power (Source) you believe in.

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What’s Going On Right Now?!?

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Is it good or is it bad? It seems nothing in our world is black and white, right or wrong.  Recessions aren’t recessions. Business isn’t business anymore. Even friendships  have different dynamics these days. Humans are creatures of habit. When things change or, in our current situation, the world changes, we get anxious and frightened. If a burglar wakes you up at night – you are afraid. If you are afraid, does not mean a burglar is in your house. If you know the noise that wakes you up is just the wind, you can go back to bed. Know that everyone and everything is currently changingfor the better, but we can’s see it yet. Focusing on what works can keep us in our seat on our ride to the next destination called “A New World.” Focus on what is working also helps let go of self ridicule, self judgement, dread and fear. This is what my friend Lazaris said about understanding what’s going on currently. “Everything is different now. You are growing and changing in a new way. Consider … your past and current failures were not and are not regression: They were and are means to a wiser, more fruitful path taking you in new directions that lead to greater happiness, greater success, and greater peace.” Lazaris

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Creativity – Acting vs. Story vs. Structure vs. Audience

Creativity Coach Michaell Magrutsche explains Story vs Acting

Playing with a story structure by jumping timelines is confusing enough and mostly used when there are holes in the story or to explain the inexplicable.  The newest thing, next to extensively shifting timelines, BBC overwhelms by adding sequences of different imagined realities of Sherlock to thicken the plot.  If it was not for the great acting and buzz of the show, people would trash Sherlock for being incomprehensible. In Sherlock’s case the 3rd season has become just a tricky mind game to keep viewers engaged. It forces viewers to be the sleuth of the story line not how to solve clever crime(s). Actually, in this 3rd season crimes are a ruse. The 1st episode focused on the variation of a theme of how Sherlock faked his death. The 2nd episode was a simple and convoluted reveal about how to kill someone with a spike in a belt. In the final and 3rd,  Johns love uses the most far fetched way to ask Sherlock for help by attempting to kill him. Having the audience trying to understand the story telling weakens even with those simplistic plots, because viewers are expecting more that is simply not there and the “wow” factor of season 1 is gone.

Subconsciously, we know we have been tricked into a goose chase without the goose. Filmmakers can’t just rely on superb acting skills and we know the best can’t save a bad script.  Solution: If you don’t have an intricate story at least make us aware with B&W dream scenes (producers have done this before) to give clarity. To explain a character, I would use refined emotional intelligence knowledge, instead of showing us what he/she is imagining. I love Sherlock 1 & 2 but season 3 is not about the viewer, but instead written to elevate BBC’s Sherlock brand minus the viewer in mind. If BBC will invest in good stories instead of  just focus on the actors this show has still life left.

We Do Everything For Happiness

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Happiness is the bottom-line of all you do and all your desires. What you choose to do comes from you believing it will make you feel happier. I.e. You want this sports car to show your wild side, to feel young again, to be happier. Whatever it is you choose to do, loving or hurting someone, you believe, ultimately, it will make you happier. THE RUB: Society taught you feeling uncomfortable or ambiguous  bad is a “bad thing. ”By adding this judgment when feeling bad you feel worse. It is human to want to feel happy. Condemning feeling uncomfortable or bad is inhuman. It is essential to understand, feeling ambiguous or uncomfortable lets you know that you are not on YOUR right track. SOLUTION: Go and look for another way or thought that feels better. You got to go down on a trampoline in order to get height. Next time when feeling bad, think “trampoline” and look forward to getting happier and feeling better.

Gender Differences

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Our gender differences create false impressions of our partners. Dr. Pat Allen really got me to see the fact that men and women are not like dogs and cats, but rather more like turtles and giraffes. This huge gender difference between men and women. How we feel, behave and perceive differently, creates distrust and a false feeling of incompatibility. Without knowing the basic  differences between a man’s and a woman’s behaviors, we are bound to keep creating misunderstandings; not because men and women don’t fit, but because of the “simple” lack of knowledge about different gender behavior.

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Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

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Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is knowing about the human condition, the properties of emotions and the sensing and translating of feelings and how they function and relate to what works and does not in your life. Don’t sweat it, you are doing it all day every day. Why? Because all human motivations are based on the believe that they will lead us  or make us happy. I.e. I buy this car-A instead of that car-B, because I feel it is car-A is better and that will make me happier than the other car-B.  Intelligence that is based on facts and cause and effect is less and less important due to the overwhelming information delivery from the internet. To gauge if the information works for you, you need your emotions of what feels right or better.

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