With every coaching client the conundrum of family comes up and the misunderstandings cause plenty of unnecessary stress. As you probably already figured out for yourself, all families are f***ed up.
This podcast illustrates the power of wanting intimacy vs. wanting a love or sexual relationship. Surprisingly, we found in our talk that what humans look for is foremost intimacy, as in closeness, not as sexuality with another human. In this episode Click here Michaell Magrutsche, Continue reading
All fear ultimately comes from a fear of being alone, lonely and/or being separate. Understand and surrender to the fact that there will always be something to fear. Because we are continuously expanding by stepping out or being pushed out of your comfort zone, fear is part of our human growth process. Decide to see fear as a friend to warn you about danger. When you let it go by allowing and feeling your fear(s), and know fear just wants to move through, it will deliver to you your bliss, Continue reading
FORGET NEW-YEARS-RESOLUTIONS. DO ONE MEDITATION INSTEAD. Christy Whitman, one of my teachers’ meditation is a yearly event. Most of you know that new-years-resolutions don’t work. Starting something new only works when the inspiration comes from within, instead of a calender date. Try this short meditation. It will probably do much more for you than any new-years-resolution. Christy’s New Years Mediation.
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In this episode Michaell Magrutsche, Dr Joen Painter and Hillary F. Brown discuss guilt-trips around family obligations during the Holiday-season. When a spouse’s family does not approve. The one person that seemingly always ruins the party. The judgement of each other. The yearly review and crazy play of new years resolutions. We give our opinions, tell our own situations and how to handle them most elegantly. Listen to this 12min Podcast click here
Should we stay or should we go? What happens when we question our relationships to such an extent? Dr. Pat Allen suggests a simple formula. When 51% of the relationship is good stay. Everything under 50% leave. There is no right answer, but my colleagues Dr. Joen Painter and Hillary F. Brown and myself have created a simple and quick clarity exercise. Our podcast reveals how twisted it all can be when considering pet peeves. Enjoy, and let us know what you think. Listen to the podcast click here. Continue reading
The most rewarding, but intricate thing in life is to overcome the fear of looking at yourself, not in a comparing or self-critical, but in a new, self-observing way. It’s similar to meeting yourself as being another person for the first time. Look at yourself and open up to see the whole of you. Stop comparing, not because it is worry-some, but it does not work. Everyone is different, no exceptions. See the things you like, dislike, what you display and hide, force them all into the light, not to evaluate or judge but to feel. Evaluating Self as good or bad is an easy cop-out that does not work because it prevents you from feeling. Instead, you want to feel consciously, observe and understand who you are and why without evaluating. Integrating self-observation into our routines, eases our life and helps prevent us from bumping into “obstacles.” Meditation is one of the most powerful facilitators of self-observation. Please push LIKE if you enjoy what your read and share with your friends.
There are opinions that either fear or loneliness are the bottom line of all constricting emotions. In my experience, it is the synergy of both. It is the fear of loneliness that is the big unseen bugaboo. Please, stay with me and forgive my wordiness. I guarantee, it will be worth your time. We all know fear or loneliness and we somehow can get through them. The synergy called fear of loneliness is something else and much deeper. Continue reading
“Everyone deserves, as we’ve so often said. If deserving were the cause of success, then everyone would be successful. Deserving doesn’t cause… willingness does.” Lazaris. It is so true. Does the president of the United States deserve to be president more than the average business owner? No. Everyone deserves what they want, but most are not willing to have it, Continue reading
Is it good or is it bad? It seems nothing in our world is black and white, right or wrong. Recessions aren’t recessions. Business isn’t business anymore. Even friendships have different dynamics these days. Humans are creatures of habit. When things change or, in our current situation, the world changes, we get anxious and frightened. If a burglar wakes you up at night – you are afraid. If you are afraid, does not mean a burglar is in your house. Continue reading
The goal of a life coach is to first find what is working within you and for you, then build on that Real Foundation. A Coach does not teach you his/her own paths to success. A Life Coach helps defining the You in you to establish Your Clarity and Focus of what You really want. A Coach supports you staying in that clarity and focus until Continue reading
HOW TO FIND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT: Oddly, we humans know to the smallest detail what we don’t want, but when ask what we do want we stutter. The best way to find “what you truly want,” is discovered in “what you don’t want.” Try this, either for a section of your life like relationship, job, business, or for your life as a whole: 1. write down everything you don’t want or fear, till you have nothing left. 2. Make a new list by turning the first list all into positives. Continue reading
Playing with a story structure by jumping timelines is confusing enough and mostly used when there are holes in the story or to explain the inexplicable. The newest thing, next to extensively shifting timelines, BBC overwhelms by adding sequences of different imagined realities of Sherlock to thicken the plot. If it was not for the great acting and buzz of the show, Continue reading
Michaell Magrutsche coaches for over 25 years.” My mastery is in finding your individual strengths/talent/essence and build on that foundation. What a Wellness Coach Does. “I found that most people when feeling frustrations are actually well. When people feel there is something wrong, it comes from their misunderstandings and unawareness of who they are. Clarity of Emotions will Increase Understanding which is key to what you want. Continue reading
Can’t you remember when you got a new car, and all of a sudden, you see the same car everywhere. We see what we focus OR don’t focus on. The same happens with our thoughts/feelings. Positive thoughts/feelings attract more positive thoughts/feelings, which in turn confirm to you a life that is more positive, therefore make you think more positive thoughts and so on… Negative thoughts/feelings Continue reading
Happiness is the bottom-line of all you do and all your desires. What you choose to do comes from you believing it will make you feel happier. I.e. You want this sports car to show your wild side, to feel young again, to be happier. Whatever it is you choose to do, loving or hurting someone, you believe, ultimately, Continue reading
CREATIVITY: If you don’t have a creative outlet, you might want to try finding yours. Like physical activity, creativity is a major human need, suppressing creative expression is leading to expressions that are much less fun like creating drama or hardship. In addition, creativity detracts in a pleasant way, without numbing, from your daily stress allowing you to balance your non physical with your physical part that is you.
Lay down or sit. Close your eyes. And watch yourself what goes on with you. Are you impatient? Do you think you are doing it wrong? Relax, you can’t. Most importantly, watch your thoughts. Let it just blabber on and listen what your thoughts are saying. This allowing of blabber will relax you and it will sooner or later stop. Then you fall asleep or you Continue reading
Our gender differences create false impressions of our partners. Dr. Pat Allen really got me to see the fact that men and women are not like dogs and cats, but rather more like turtles and giraffes. This huge gender difference between men and women. How we feel, behave and perceive differently, creates distrust and a false feeling of incompatibility. Without knowing the basic Continue reading
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is knowing about the human condition, the properties of emotions and the sensing and translating of feelings and how they function and relate to what works and does not in your life. Don’t sweat it, you are doing it all day every day. Why? Because all human motivations are based on the believe that they will lead us Continue reading